Most reactions don't start where you think they do.
That argument.
That withdrawal.
That sharp tone you didn't plan.
It wasn't random.
Something was already in motion.
We assume reactions are about the moment.
They're not.
They're directional.
We move toward what feels whole.
We move away from what feels threatening.
Before thought.
Before effort.
Before explanation.
When you see that, reactions stop feeling personal.
They start feeling mechanical.
Not something to fix.
Something to understand.
If that distinction matters to you, start here.
